But we don’t believe it. Except on clear days, when we wonder why we don’t always see so clearly.
Few people really understand themselves. As important as it is, most lack the ability to develop the skill.
And it is important. Extremely important. Unless you are self-aware, you will probably never make any improvement.
Here is a secret. Do a self-assessment on a clear day. Those days are not common for most people. They often happen when unexpected, and some last for a short moment, such as while you are driving or in the shower. But that day or that moment is when you should assess yourself.
- When you are in a state of calm and free from distractions, consider yourslf.
- Consider things people have said about you, think about your weaknesses and strengths, and think about how others might perceive you.
- Look to negative models from your past (“am I like that person?”) Can you gain an insight into how you can improve?
- Don’t try to create a list. Just focus on one new insight and develop a plan to change.
Other secrets for effective self-assessment exist. But I advise you to try this one. Follow the advice of Streisand, Sinatra, Bennett, Rawls (and also Andy Williams).