Make Your Children Functional

Perhaps you’ve been to Walmart and heard a Walmart mom yelling at a child. Don’t judge if you don’t currently have children. Because even if you had children in the past, you can’t appreciate the pressures that parents now face.

 

But we can criticize the stereotype to show a principle. Often, the Walmart mom is scolding her children, not because they did something wrong, but because they did something irritating. They ask questions, express feelings of hunger, or sneeze.

Perfect parents, by contrast, focus on the big picture rather than on preventing annoyance.

When I was a young father, I created a list of 20 takeaways my children needed to gain before leaving home. Rather than focusing on their hair length was or on a particular geography test score, I focused on The List.
The list is private, but here is a list of 10 things I believe parents should teach.
  1. how to use a public restroom without contracting a communicable disease.
  2. how to laugh at yourself but not at others.
  3. good etiquette—poise and confidence and good manners.
  4. basic healthy communication skills.
  5. to not be lazy.
  6. to not be a punk: help others, especially vulnerable people and respect old people.
  7. a marketable skill.
  8. a sense of responsibility for the outcome of your life.
  9. the habit of thrift, and respect for personal property.
  10. to be courageous when you want to be silent or change the subject.
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Focus on essentials.

Don’t have kids?  Can you spare a moment to help the village raise the child?
Please share these lessons with kids you know, because their parents are completely overwhelmed by looking for lost shoes and feeding balanced meals.
What is the MOST IMPORTANT lesson your parents taught YOU?

Published by Brock Stout, PhD

Brock has helped many people to be extremely successful. He has lived in various countries and has enjoyed several careers, but is now a writer and a coach. He sustained mild lead poisoning as a child, resulting in neurological damage. The result was a life of learning disabilities, always struggling to keep up. But he completed two degrees from competitive universities, then advised Wall Street executives in Asia for 15 years. He later earned a PhD and worked as a university professor for six years. He has started three profitable companies in between. So he particularly wants to help those with special learning challenges. Because so many of us now have these special challenges, they are no longer special. But they are challenges. He wants you to TEACH YOURSELF how to be successful.

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